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January 24, 2019 @ 12:33 pm

Bringing Others Into the Closet with You


Is coming out to one person really coming out? Or are you just inviting them into the closet with you? In this episode we'll answer a listener question on the difficulties of only being out to some, but not all, the people in your life. Our listener asks "When I came out it was a huge strain on my relationship with my mother. Both my father and sister separately told me that one of the things that was a strain on my mom was the fact I wasn’t coming out to everyone, but it was put on everyone else to tell people (or not). This was a big emotional and mental burden for her she didn’t want to carry it. When you come out to someone you are there and somewhat prepared for the questions but are your friends family ready to answer questions? Because if they aren’t ready to handle it what happens when the person who just learned this has to process all this emotionally in a bubble?" 

If you're in a similar situation, you might find PFLAG's PDF "Our Trans Loved Ones" to be a great resources for family who may need some basic info on transgender people and transition. 

You might want to check out some of our other episodes that touch on a similar topic; Coming Out, Being a Partner in Limbo, and Should Faith Come Out to Her Grandma? 

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The Gender Rebels is a weekly question-and-answer podcast that explores life outside the binary; crossdressing, transgender topics, queer life and anything else that helps break down the gender binary. It's hosted by Faith, a transgender woman in Brooklyn, and her cis female partner Kath. You might also hear a bark or two in the background from our cis dog Rocket. To ask us a question or share a thought emails us at

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